Good Things Fall Apart so Better Things Can Fall Together

Misery Loves Company!!

It's really sad that there are so many Miserable people in this world... Life is too Precious to sit around all day, everyday being miserable & trying to make every1 else around you miserable. No one wants to be around such negativity, it can be contagious! Ofcourse Miserable people would like others feeling the way they do, but in reality you will end up all Alone!... We all go thru the motions here & there, but to be Miserable just about everyday & try to bring others down w/you is a complete Waste! I pray that God put Peace & Joy in your Heart & Mind...God Bless!!

I'm outta control...

Lonnnnng Road......

While I was driving down an Empty,Long Road yesterday, I looked in the rear-view mirror & looked as if the long road behind me was my past. Then I looked forward & realized that the road ahead of me was even longer. But this road ahead of me was No Dead-End...There was a sign warning "Fork in the Road Ahead".
I have Faith that when I do reach that Fork in the road My Lord will guide me to take the right path.

~Before You Walk Out My Life~

*Amazing Bliss*

The Backstabbers =)

Daddy's Little Girl ;-)

In light of Father's Day, I felt the need to write about my dad & how much he means to me.
Typically every little girl's First crush/Love is with her daddy. This true for me. My Daddy has always been & will always be My First Love.
My dad wasn't always there {physically} growing up. He was always in & out of jail. {Mostly because of drugs}. I noticed how my mom struggled to take care of me & my sister...One of the reasons I learned responsibility at a young age. I was the oldest & had to help mom with my lil sister. I remember as a lil girl, taking early, long bus rides to visit dad upstate. Ofcourse, then as a child I didn't resent or Love my dad any less. When I was 13yrs. old, we moved to Tampa, Florida from NYC. My mom wanted to continue to raise us in Florida because she felt it was in our best interest to do so. Dad soon came after. When I was maybe 14-15yrs old, My parents were having issues, & my dad had an affair with a woman he worked with at the time.He stood with this woman moments at a time, being back & forth with her & us. She had 2 children from my dad, a girl & a boy. At the time I remember being upset, confused, & even disappointed. I remember clearly the emotions & heartache my mom went through. Despite feeling mixed emotions about the situation, My Love for my dad did not change.
Dad wasn't into the same bad habits in Tampa as he was in NYC...The problem wasn't drugs & jail anymore, now it was deceit & betrayal. While mom & dad attempted to work out their issues, He was there for me & my sister...Softball games & all.
Through the years & looking back....Dad has changed alot. Could be age/maturity, location, or a combination of both. but the important thing is that HE HAS CHANGED for the best.
My whole point? No matter what mistakes he made or continues to make, no matter what kind of relationship him & mom had/have, the fact that he has two other children w/another woman...Whatever it was or is, My Father never gave me or my sister the impression that he did not Love us unconditionally & for that I Love him unconditionally!
Me & Dad are close, more like friends. He is very comfortable confiding in me as do I. No matter how much older I get, he never fails to remind me that I'll always be his Little Girl.
My Daddy is Ray Aguilera & he's THE BEST DAD EVER..
*HAPPY FATHER'S DAY, DADDY...I LOVE YOU ALWAYS. XOXO
YOUR LITTLE GIRL,
-JOANN "JO" AGUILERA

Stop being like the rest of them!

Why dudes get mad when you compare them to Exes or Past experiences? Because sooner or later, they do similiar shit like the dudes in your past. Seriously. Stop being like the rest of them. If you want to be taking seriously, Dare to be Different & Stop being so damn Predictable. I'm so tired of hearing, "I'm Not like that", "I'm Not like other Niggas, you've messed with". Don't talk about it, Be about it. You want to Impress me, Genuinely be Different & Unpredictable. Have me saying "Wow", instead of "Damn, I should've known better". I mean if you really think that's effective bait, it might work on some...But, I've heard all the same ish, time & time again. It gets so redundant, that after a while, it all sounds like straight BullShyt. So, don't be surprised when we roll our eyes as you say "I'm Not like that"!! It gets old & annoying. XOXO

Stuck on Stoopid....Not anymore!

"Stuck on Stoopid" - The act of continuing to do something with the knowledge that it is Not in your best interest.
Why are we as Females {Not all, but some of us} "Stuck on Stoopid"? This applies especially in dating & relationships. We get with someone, we become emotionally attached, then they do something to mess it up, it doesn't work out, we tell them to get Lost...Until, somewhere down the road, they're calling/texting us, telling us what they think we want to hear. Although, we know that what they are telling us is bogus & just part of their game, we take them back & continue to see them. The keep doing dumb stuff, & the Dumb thing we do is allow it.
As long as they know that we will continue to allow it, they will continue to play the same game. Don't get it twisted, Men can get caught up also & get 'Stuck on Stoopid", we just refer to them as Punks! Sorry, but that's just the way it is. It's like a cycle we need to break. As I have gotten older, & more mature, it gets easier to let go of such non-sense! My past experiences have disciplined me to stand strong & hold my ground in such situations! xoxo

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Keep Your Hands Out The "Cookie Jar"

Someone asked that I blog about Cheating, So here's what I think: Cheaters are Selfish, Cowards!! I won't lie, I was a Selfish Coward back in the day. But I matured & I learned my lesson the hard way. I don't regret how I learned my lesson because it made me a better, faithful, loyal, partner. I will not try to understand why people cheat because it can be for numerous different reasons, which none of those reasons are Justification. Instead of using the term "Reasons", I think it's more appropriate to use the term "Excuses". Excuses can be from, Boredom, Unhappiness, Low Self-Esteem...Either way, the person doing the Cheating is being Selfish, because Obviously their only concern is satisfying their Needs and/or Wants, Not considering what kind of impact such selfish act can have on the one being cheated on. The Cheater is also considered to be a Coward, because instead of confronting whatever issue they are having before stepping out, they seek what they "think" would be the easier way out. I don't think Cheaters really consider what Consequences might come of it. The Cheater might just have intentions for one encounter...what if whom ever your cheating with doesn't want to accept that & threatens to ruin the relationship that you just thought of trying to work out. Here's my Experience {summarized}: I was dating someone who lived about 30min away, we hardly saw eachother, so whenever we were together it was just mostly sex. We didn't do things couple normally do. Anyway, I cheated, I felt bad & told him I cheated, out of spite, he then cheated on me, I found out from nude pics on his digi cam of the chick. That was the most shittiest feeling! Since I experienced what it felt like to be cheated on, I have a different attitude towards it. I have matured & don't see the need to cheat on your partner. If one really feels it necessary to explore outside the relationship then maybe you should'nt be in a relationship to begin with. If you feel bold enough to test the waters, you should be bold enough to encounter whatever Sharks that may be lurking in those waters. Keep in mind *Karma's a Bytch!! xoxo

Dead Beat Parents a.k.a Egg & Sperm Donors.

As you may already know, I have a 7yr old Lil Man. Me & his dad broke up a month after I gave birth. It was my choice. His dad was & is a Pathological Liar. That was his only bad habit. But it was a Bad habit that I was Not going to deal with any longer. Anyway, My son's father was great when I was prego. We were living with his mom & his 2 nieces (his sister has a habit of having children & leaving them with her mom to raise, I believe she's at 5...at da time it was just da 2). Anyway, he worked 2 jobs & I worked up til I was 7months. He made sure I was comfortable, he made sure I was fed, gave me massages, esp. foot rubs. When I gave birth, & we brought lil man home, he would get up in the middle of the night to make bottles, change diapers, all that good stuff. I was grateful for that. After a month, I just couldn't take the unnecessary lies & was starting to feel claustrophobic in that house, I went to stay with my mom...I needed her guidance & knowledge, It was my 1st baby. My son's father would come & visit, sometimes take lil man with him & spend time with him. After a couple of years, the visits decreased...The next few years I would lecture to him the importance of spending time with his only child. But he was & still is verrrrrry stubborn. I came to the realization that he was hostile towards me not wanting to be with him that my child had to pay the price. He is Selfish!! I got tired of singing the same song. I tried talking to his mom, but she basically would tell me that she didn't want to get involved. I tried talking to his dad, who would seem like he was in shock but Obviously that didn't work. Even though my son hardly sees his dad, he still thinks the world of him. I never speak negative about his dad around him, I will let him come to his own conclusion when he's old enough to realize the truth. My son always asks why can't we be one big happy family & live together & I do my best to explain to him that I love his dad, & his dad loves him, but that doesn't mean we all have to live together. His dad has his priorities out of order, just recently he started texting asking about him, when I reply & tell him how he is, he goes straight to talking bout how he misses me & if I'm ready to get back together. I rather him give my son some quality time on a regular basis then receive his court-ordered, income deducted Child Support...I can't imagine to know what it is like to have a child that is living elsewhere & not do my best to spend time with them or atleast call them once a week to assure them that I care for them, I'm thinking of them, I miss them, & most of all "I Love them"!! And it's not just men who have abandoned/neglected their children... I have met Single dads, & that irks me so much. Me, as a Mother could not imagine abandoning my child. I have the upmost respect for all Single Moms & Single dads, doing it on their own. I have the upmost respect for Non-Custodial parents who are responsible & step up to the plate & take care of theirs. Not just financially, but mentally & physically. There is No excuse for the Non-Custodial parent who lives in the same state, city, & especially have no other kids with anyone else not to be there on all levels. My son's father is Not hurting me, he's hurting my son, but it hurts me when I see my son disappointed. So if your taking care of yours, Great...that's what you're suppose to do, keep doing it. If your not, & your being a selfish jerk, then shame on you...When your kid(s) grow up to resent, it's your own fault. Karma's a B!+@# !!

When you think you know, you have No idea!!

Who has it worse? Every1 has their own problems they're dealing with. But alot of us sometimes forget that we are Not the only ones who are going through something. At some point Life throws us all Curve balls, sometimes more frequently than others, so we think... Here's my "Sobb Story" summarized: I'm 31yrs old, with a 7yr old boy. We both live with my parents. My mom works a part-time job, My dad can't work because of disabilities. I work part-time on weekends, because mom shares her car with me & the weekends are the only time their wouldn't be a conflict in schedules. I've lost my independence & working on getting it back, only to have set backs, once I think I'm 2 steps forward, something occurs & takes me 4 steps back. I struggle with anxiety among other things, & do my best to remain positive & trust in God. I am in No way complaining, I am grateful for everything...good & bad. I truly believe Everything happens for a reason. I may be goin thru it, but I know there will ALWAYS be someone out there who has it worse.....What's your sobb story??