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In light of Father's Day, I felt the need to write about my dad & how much he means to me. Typically every little girl's First crush/Love is with her daddy. This true for me. My Daddy has always been & will always be My First Love. My dad wasn't always there {physically} growing up. He was always in & out of jail. {Mostly because of drugs}. I noticed how my mom struggled to take care of me & my sister...One of the reasons I learned responsibility at a young age. I was the oldest & had to help mom with my lil sister. I remember as a lil girl, taking early, long bus rides to visit dad upstate. Ofcourse, then as a child I didn't resent or Love my dad any less. When I was 13yrs. old, we moved to Tampa, Florida from NYC. My mom wanted to continue to raise us in Florida because she felt it was in our best interest to do so. Dad soon came after. When I was maybe 14-15yrs old, My parents were having issues, & my dad had an affair with a woman he worked with at the time.He stood with this woman moments at a time, being back & forth with her & us. She had 2 children from my dad, a girl & a boy. At the time I remember being upset, confused, & even disappointed. I remember clearly the emotions & heartache my mom went through. Despite feeling mixed emotions about the situation, My Love for my dad did not change. Dad wasn't into the same bad habits in Tampa as he was in NYC...The problem wasn't drugs & jail anymore, now it was deceit & betrayal. While mom & dad attempted to work out their issues, He was there for me & my sister...Softball games & all. Through the years & looking back....Dad has changed alot. Could be age/maturity, location, or a combination of both. but the important thing is that HE HAS CHANGED for the best. My whole point? No matter what mistakes he made or continues to make, no matter what kind of relationship him & mom had/have, the fact that he has two other children w/another woman...Whatever it was or is, My Father never gave me or my sister the impression that he did not Love us unconditionally & for that I Love him unconditionally! Me & Dad are close, more like friends. He is very comfortable confiding in me as do I. No matter how much older I get, he never fails to remind me that I'll always be his Little Girl. My Daddy is Ray Aguilera & he's THE BEST DAD EVER.. *HAPPY FATHER'S DAY, DADDY...I LOVE YOU ALWAYS. XOXO YOUR LITTLE GIRL, -JOANN "JO" AGUILERA
Why dudes get mad when you compare them to Exes or Past experiences? Because sooner or later, they do similiar shit like the dudes in your past. Seriously. Stop being like the rest of them. If you want to be taking seriously, Dare to be Different & Stop being so damn Predictable. I'm so tired of hearing, "I'm Not like that", "I'm Not like other Niggas, you've messed with". Don't talk about it, Be about it. You want to Impress me, Genuinely be Different & Unpredictable. Have me saying "Wow", instead of "Damn, I should've known better". I mean if you really think that's effective bait, it might work on some...But, I've heard all the same ish, time & time again. It gets so redundant, that after a while, it all sounds like straight BullShyt. So, don't be surprised when we roll our eyes as you say "I'm Not like that"!! It gets old & annoying. XOXO
"Stuck on Stoopid" - The act of continuing to do something with the knowledge that it is Not in your best interest.
Why are we as Females {Not all, but some of us} "Stuck on Stoopid"? This applies especially in dating & relationships. We get with someone, we become emotionally attached, then they do something to mess it up, it doesn't work out, we tell them to get Lost...Until, somewhere down the road, they're calling/texting us, telling us what they think we want to hear. Although, we know that what they are telling us is bogus & just part of their game, we take them back & continue to see them. The keep doing dumb stuff, & the Dumb thing we do is allow it.
As long as they know that we will continue to allow it, they will continue to play the same game. Don't get it twisted, Men can get caught up also & get 'Stuck on Stoopid", we just refer to them as Punks! Sorry, but that's just the way it is. It's like a cycle we need to break. As I have gotten older, & more mature, it gets easier to let go of such non-sense! My past experiences have disciplined me to stand strong & hold my ground in such situations! xoxohttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15f4Fc72mNM
Someone asked that I blog about Cheating, So here's what I think: Cheaters are Selfish, Cowards!! I won't lie, I was a Selfish Coward back in the day. But I matured & I learned my lesson the hard way. I don't regret how I learned my lesson because it made me a better, faithful, loyal, partner. I will not try to understand why people cheat because it can be for numerous different reasons, which none of those reasons are Justification. Instead of using the term "Reasons", I think it's more appropriate to use the term "Excuses". Excuses can be from, Boredom, Unhappiness, Low Self-Esteem...Either way, the person doing the Cheating is being Selfish, because Obviously their only concern is satisfying their Needs and/or Wants, Not considering what kind of impact such selfish act can have on the one being cheated on. The Cheater is also considered to be a Coward, because instead of confronting whatever issue they are having before stepping out, they seek what they "think" would be the easier way out. I don't think Cheaters really consider what Consequences might come of it. The Cheater might just have intentions for one encounter...what if whom ever your cheating with doesn't want to accept that & threatens to ruin the relationship that you just thought of trying to work out. Here's my Experience {summarized}: I was dating someone who lived about 30min away, we hardly saw eachother, so whenever we were together it was just mostly sex. We didn't do things couple normally do. Anyway, I cheated, I felt bad & told him I cheated, out of spite, he then cheated on me, I found out from nude pics on his digi cam of the chick. That was the most shittiest feeling! Since I experienced what it felt like to be cheated on, I have a different attitude towards it. I have matured & don't see the need to cheat on your partner. If one really feels it necessary to explore outside the relationship then maybe you should'nt be in a relationship to begin with. If you feel bold enough to test the waters, you should be bold enough to encounter whatever Sharks that may be lurking in those waters. Keep in mind *Karma's a Bytch!! xoxo
